The Control Freak

Granted, men like women who have opinions and know what they like.  The relationship volley – He: What would you like to do tonight?/She: I don’t know, what would you like to do? – can get a little old.  Needless to say, it’s always refreshing when she responds with something like, I’d like to see a movie, rather than hitting the question back into your court.

Strong women have strong opinions.  And if you consider yourself a strong man, this can be good. However, there’s a fine line between the self-assured lady who isn’t afraid to stand her ground and The Control Freak.

How to know when the woman you’re dating is The Control Freak type:

• You wake up one morning and realize that, while trying to please her, mostly everything you’ve done since you began dating has been her choice.
• You no longer bring up your favorite restaurants and activities, knowing she’s not going to like them.
• She counters your suggestions with her favorite restaurants and activities, and that’s where you end up.
• She nitpicks your shortcomings.
• She tells you how to behave in public.
• She triggers your insecurities.
• Your gut tells you that it’s her way or the highway.

The Control Freak will never be satisfied in a relationship regardless of how hard you try to please her.  Despite her conviction that her way is the right way, she’s insecure.  Her need to control derives from believing that if she’s in charge she won’t have to face her shortcomings.  She’s a perfectionist who leaves little room for another person in her life, and, since perfection is relative, she can’t be happy with any man because he’ll never live up to her standards.

Opinions are good, opinionated . . . not so much.