There’s shy, and then there’s shy. A little shyness in a man can be (is) attractive – most women love a slightly vulnerable guy. He appears more genuine than other males that apparently have their dating game down pat.
However, when shyness translates into introverted, timid, or withdrawn it becomes a stumbling block that requires serious attention prior to giving any thought to finding Ms. Right. In this situation, no amount of coaching will fix the problem – it’s time to seek professional help in order to move forward with confidence.
When it comes to approaching women most men are a bit shy. Rejection is a difficult concept, and playing it safe seems the better choice. Safe, yes, however it’s better to let a few rebuffs roll off of your back than miss the one and only chance you have to meet someone who may share the same spark that, in that moment, you’re feeling for her.
There’s always that woman who turns a man’s head, standing on a street corner waiting for the walk signal, sitting in a coffee shop, or sipping wine somewhere in one of Portland’s ubiquitous Happy Hour spots. And I’m betting that there’s a good chance you’ve been there and did nothing to attract her attention – yet, when she walks away you suddenly realize that you’ve forever lost an opportunity to meet someone special.
Shy men finish last. There are plenty of other guys who conquer shyness, put on a confident face, and go for it – they may hesitate a moment or two before making contact with the head-turner lady, however they comprehend the importance of the moment. And if you should find yourself in the same place once again with that same lady, most likely she’ll already be dating the man who approached her and swept her off her feet – when all along it could have been you.
When you come to think of it, you really have nothing to lose. Bruised egos don’t last but a few minutes. Go for it!