Say you’re at your favorite Happy Hour place, turn your head and spot instant attraction right there in front of your eyes. Feeling your heart pound in your ears you immediately spring up off your bar stool, stroll on over to where she’s sitting, and say something like Hi how’s it going? only to get the cold shoulder. Ouch! Self-esteem takes a nosedive. And feeling the sting of rejection you pull the sci-fi thing, making yourself invisible.
Rejection isn’t always bad. In fact, it can be a good thing – rather than wanting to disappear right there on the spot, think of it as an opportunity to learn.
Why the negative retort? Usually it amounts to just a few things, such as she prematurely determined that you’re not her type just by looking at you, she deemed your opening line boring – the same stale pick up line she’s heard dozens of times by guys just like you, or she’s already seeing someone and not interested in meeting anyone else at that time.
How to learn from rejection:
- Know your dating demographic and play to it by matching your external packaging (image) to your type of woman.
- Know how to flirt and bring it on. The right type of eye contact can tell you whether or not she’s interested in meeting new men.
- Use the pretend a friend tactic for your opening line.
There’s no guarantee that you won’t, from time-to-time, experience rejection , however when you learn from your mistakes the odds drastically drop.