Having been out there in the dating world for some time you’re probably aware that it’s a good plan to have The Exit Excuse at the ready prior to meeting a woman for the first time. Naturally you don’t want to find yourself spending valuable time and money on someone you’re not attracted to, and know in a nanosecond that it’s never going to work out.
Crap-shoot dating means meeting for a quick cocktail with someone you know absolutely nothing about, and realizing the moment you meet her that you don’t want to be there. Yet, there you are. You’re now stuck with having to use The Exit Excuse as quickly as she finishes the beverage she’s ordered.
The Exit Excuse is especially important to those engaged in online dating. You simply never know who you’re going to meet. After all, can you really count on written words and a photo that’s going to be either spot on or so far from reality that you’re stunned that she had the nerve to post it?
Yet, even when you meet and enjoy the company of an attractive, interesting woman there’s no guarantee that you’ll know if she’s your lifelong partner on a first date. If you walk away because the spark wasn’t apparent right then and there you might want to consider that it could suddenly appear in a less conventional (formal), more comfortable setting, i.e. outdoors or a space where you can walk and get physically closer.
Given time the Exit Excuse is no longer an excuse, rather it’s a valid reason that she simply isn’t the one. If after a date or two and given some thought, though you thoroughly enjoyed her company, you decide for whatever reason that a long-term relationship just doesn’t feel right it’s time to make your exit.
Five ways to communicate your reason for exiting a short-term dating relationship:
Meet in a casual, quiet location and communicate, making the exit conversation honest and less awkward. Don’t even think of texting, emailing, or conversing by phone.
1. You’ve spent enough time together that you’ve gotten to know her lifestyle and it doesn’t feel a good fit with yours.There’s a good chance that she’s already figured that out.
2. You realize that including her children or yours into a relationship just wouldn’t work out. Be honest about your feelings. Again, there’s a good chance she’s begun feeling the same way.
3. Time is an issue. She, you, or both are caught up with careers, children, or other activities that make dating difficult. Believe me, it’s not something she hasn’t considered as well.
4. The spark just never happened. It takes two to make it happen and there’s little doubt that she’s on the same page.
5. You’ve met someone else who you feel is a better match for you. Though this one may have her feeling a bit of emotional pain, you haven’t been dating long enough for it to last long. She too, will be moving on.
Getting to know someone first and then having a honest conversation is the only way to communicate your reason for exiting a short-term dating relationship