Letter to my readers

It’s been a long interesting matchmaking summer and I’m proud to say that I was able to match most of my bachelors. I’ve worked long hours and will continue to do so for those still under contract. They’re amazing guys and deserve all that I can give to fulfill their dreams of finding their perfect matches.

Though my success rate wasn’t 100%, those who didn’t find their perfect ladies are now more prepared to go out and find them. All contracts with Lorenz Matchmaking included date coaching sessions. And those who took advantage of these sessions have a better understanding of the importance of the right image and knowledge about how women approach dating, and I feel confident that by using that knowledge they will find their Ms.Rights all on their own.

Reflecting back on the summer and my history as a date coach and fashion consultant I realized that my success rate for helping men prepare for the dating world has been 100%. I can honestly say that there hasn’t been a single client who hasn’t walked taller and felt more self-confident, self-assured. It has enabled them to attract the right types of women and lasting relationships.

Back to the present. I’m never satisfied with anything less than 100%. Therefore, I’ve come full circle, and beginning this fall will be concentrating on date coaching and helping men sport an image that will attract the right types of women while still keeping my toes in the matchmaking water (more info forthcoming on SSHI Website).

As with most things in life preparation and knowing appropriate protocol is paramount. Knowledge is key; it never fails to get you exactly what you want.

Men and Botox

Men and Botox. No one has to know – the difference in your appearance is remarkably subtle – unless, of course, you spill the beans. And I’m thinking you won’t.

After years of being out in the sun – swinging clubs on the golf course, playing on the water, as well as stressing over life’s constant surprises – age lines naturally appear around your eyes.

I’m not talking about those sexy fine lines that make you even more handsome as you grow a bit older, rather it’s those lines that keep digging in deeper and deeper with each passing year – yeah, not so sexy.

The myth about Botox is that after a few simple injections (pinpricks really) suddenly your face becomes as immobile as a store mannequin’s. Your emotions are blank expressions. Au contraire. Botox simply relaxes those unwanted deep creases, allowing your natural expressions to shine even more.

Today’s man covers the gray, removes unwanted body hair, and uses hair and face products that lend him his sexy appearance. Learn more about Botox and then give it a shot!

The busy man

When love walks into a man’s life his career naturally shifts a bit to make time and space for the new lady. This, of course, means that there’s little time left over for other necessary tasks that need tending to, i.e., clothes shopping (most likely something he doesn’t especially enjoy to begin with), gift buying (there are always those loved ones that expect him to remember birthdays, weddings, and anniversaries), and picking up grooming products that keep him looking his best.

The busy man needs help with these everyday chores. He requires a personal concierge to preselect clothing items so that he simply shows up for a single wardrobe fitting with a professional stylist there to help him make the best choices, gifts bought, and daily grooming products purchased and delivered to him.

Contact me to learn more about this exciting Lorenz Concierge service.

Sharing your life with someone you love

When watching a sunset or riding the MAX witnessing a strange interaction, right then your brain releases an emotional response – the startling beauty of the fading sun, or sudden irritation relating to behavior that you can’t even begin to get a grasp on.

Later, when you think about your experience there’s always the urge to tell someone about what you’ve just seen. Beauty, anger, or simply an unusual sight begs to be shared.

When I see or hear something that moves me, or when something exciting or unsettling comes into my life unexpectedly I instinctively call or text – call when you have a moment – my husband.

During our long working hours I like that I can reach out to Tim with things that only we would find funny, or when I know his words will be calming – many times his understanding of certain situations differs from mine (thank God!). And I think about how good it is to have him in my life, always there when I need him to share a subtle wisp of humor, or to talk me down from the ledge when things seem unbearable.

Sharing your life with someone you love is as important as the air that we breathe – knowing you’re not alone when things seem to be falling apart all around you, or when the sky brightens and you’re on top of the world.

Many experts in the field of psychology agree that humans are not meant to live alone. Sharing your life with someone you love increases longevity, keeps your body and mind healthy, and brings more meaning to life and the world in which we live.

In a Perfect World

In a perfect world everyone would hold onto the one that they love. There would be no bad breakups, divorces, deaths or ugly words exchanged by anyone, anywhere – ever. Feelings wouldn’t get hurt and egos bruised. Children wouldn’t find themselves caught between two people who once cared for and cherished each other shouting obscure obscenities from their bedrooms at night.

Unfortunately we don’t live in a perfect world. And the fallout from devastated relationships fills the air like a poisonous gas, obliterating the very thought that there could be something as naive as happily every after.

Yet fortunately, in this imperfect world along with the sun rising each day comes a renewed possibility of finding true love once again, seeing beauty when looking outward, fulfillment in daily work, and the knowledge that the future can change with a single beat of the heart.

Happily ever after is not a naive thought. And you don’t have to live in a perfect world to experience it.

Shy men finish last

There’s shy, and then there’s shy. A little shyness in a man can be (is) attractive – most women love a slightly vulnerable guy. He appears more genuine than other males that apparently have their dating game down pat.

However, when shyness translates into introverted, timid, or withdrawn it becomes a stumbling block that requires serious attention prior to giving any thought to finding Ms. Right. In this situation, no amount of coaching will fix the problem – it’s time to seek professional help in order to move forward with confidence.

When it comes to approaching women most men are a bit shy. Rejection is a difficult concept, and playing it safe seems the better choice. Safe, yes, however it’s better to let a few rebuffs roll off of your back than miss the one and only chance you have to meet someone who may share the same spark that, in that moment, you’re feeling for her.

There’s always that woman who turns a man’s head, standing on a street corner waiting for the walk signal, sitting in a coffee shop, or sipping wine somewhere in one of Portland’s ubiquitous Happy Hour spots. And I’m betting that there’s a good chance you’ve been there and did nothing to attract her attention – yet, when she walks away you suddenly realize that you’ve forever lost an opportunity to meet someone special.

Shy men finish last. There are plenty of other guys who conquer shyness, put on a confident face, and go for it – they may hesitate a moment or two before making contact with the head-turner lady, however they comprehend the importance of the moment. And if you should find yourself in the same place once again with that same lady, most likely she’ll already be dating the man who approached her and swept her off her feet – when all along it could have been you.

When you come to think of it, you really have nothing to lose. Bruised egos don’t last but a few minutes. Go for it!

Portland’s Most Eligible Bachelor

Everyone knows a guy who deserves to be dating the love of his life. Perhaps it’s someone who works in your office, a relative, or a good friend who has you wondering why he’s still single. Yet, rarely is there a definitive answer to why he hasn’t yet met the perfect woman.

Well, here’s your chance to lend him a hand. Lorenz matchmaking and HairM are sponsoring ‘Portland’s Most Eligible Man Contest.’ Simply nominate the guy you feel best deserves to be pampered at HairM and matched with a lovely Lorenz bachelorette – in addition there are more prizes in store if he wins. Guys can even nominate themselves – most encouraged!

For more information go to http://www.sheshouldhaveit.com/sample-page/tickets.

Secrets

Nearly everyone wears a mask they remove when no one is looking. Granted, putting it all out there is frightening and most often not a good thing to do. Your guard protects you from others knowing your true feelings – the ones that make you feel weak and unworthy of those goals that you’ve unconsciously slotted into the unachievable category. Keeping secrets that you hold in check keeps you moving forward in life with less fear.

Yet, when brave enough to bring these thoughts to the surface there’s no denying that they’re as much a part of you as what you allow others to see. Honesty with oneself, to say the least, is difficult. Yet, it’s what’s hidden as well as what’s seen that makes you authentic.

I’ve learned, over the years, that men have a greater tendency than women to build and hide behind well thought out facades. And as we all know facades eventually develop some cracks and, when it comes to dating, women can spot the smallest thin fractures in a heartbeat.

With the start of the new year it’s a good time to ask yourself, Who am I? Take on the challenge and give it some thought. What you may find is that once you have it all clear in your head you’ll suddenly find that you have a better understanding of the type of woman that’s just right for you – you then know who you are and finding Ms. Right will become much more realistic and achievable in 2012.

Keep your secrets held close to the vest when out there in the world. However, having a better understanding of what they are is crucial when finding Ms.Right.

Happy New Year to all my dedicated followers! May this year bring you the woman of your dreams!!!

Rachael
xxoo

The 21st Annual Champagne Ball

With Christmas day a memory, it’s time to think about the new year. And if you haven’t already made plans for New Year’s Eve The Champagne Ball at The Hilton Hotel in downtown Portland is the place to be.

50% of those attending the Ball are single! So, if it’s love that you’re wishing for in the coming year this is a great place to start.

As you know by now, I’ll be there to meet and greet you in the Broadway Room from 7:00 – 9:00 p.m.– and I have a few tricks up my sleeve to help you find just the right lady with whom you’ll want to share a kiss when the clock strikes 12:00.

So get your fancy duds out from your closet, and come join us for the fun. Who knows what will happen?

I look forward to meeting you there!

Rachael
xxoo

Give yourself an ‘out’

With the holidays upon us no doubt you’ve received invitations to parties and dinners with friends and colleagues. Though you have hesitations about attending alone, sans a partner for the evening, show up. If you don’t at least make an appearance you’ll never know what – who – you missed. Every invitation means an opportunity to meet the lady of your dreams – or at least have a good time.

However, if the thought of going alone is keeping you on the fence about going, give yourself an ‘out.’

1. At a party when things aren’t looking good tell the host that you have another engagement that evening, and make your exit.

2. Dinners are a tad tricky. If cocktails are being served before dinner tell the host that you’d love to drop by for a drink, however you’re not sure if you can stay for dinner. If things are going well tell the host that your previous plans for the evening have fallen through, and if there’s still room at the table you’d love to join in.

3. Don’t blend into the wallpaper. Chat with everyone there. When they learn what a great guy you are there’s a good chance they’ll know someone single whom they’d like you to meet.

Playing it safe isn’t always the way to go. Get out there and enjoy the festivities. Who knows who you’ll meet?