Letter to my readers

It’s been a long interesting matchmaking summer and I’m proud to say that I was able to match most of my bachelors. I’ve worked long hours and will continue to do so for those still under contract. They’re amazing guys and deserve all that I can give to fulfill their dreams of finding their perfect matches.

Though my success rate wasn’t 100%, those who didn’t find their perfect ladies are now more prepared to go out and find them. All contracts with Lorenz Matchmaking included date coaching sessions. And those who took advantage of these sessions have a better understanding of the importance of the right image and knowledge about how women approach dating, and I feel confident that by using that knowledge they will find their Ms.Rights all on their own.

Reflecting back on the summer and my history as a date coach and fashion consultant I realized that my success rate for helping men prepare for the dating world has been 100%. I can honestly say that there hasn’t been a single client who hasn’t walked taller and felt more self-confident, self-assured. It has enabled them to attract the right types of women and lasting relationships.

Back to the present. I’m never satisfied with anything less than 100%. Therefore, I’ve come full circle, and beginning this fall will be concentrating on date coaching and helping men sport an image that will attract the right types of women while still keeping my toes in the matchmaking water (more info forthcoming on SSHI Website).

As with most things in life preparation and knowing appropriate protocol is paramount. Knowledge is key; it never fails to get you exactly what you want.

Men and Botox

Men and Botox. No one has to know – the difference in your appearance is remarkably subtle – unless, of course, you spill the beans. And I’m thinking you won’t.

After years of being out in the sun – swinging clubs on the golf course, playing on the water, as well as stressing over life’s constant surprises – age lines naturally appear around your eyes.

I’m not talking about those sexy fine lines that make you even more handsome as you grow a bit older, rather it’s those lines that keep digging in deeper and deeper with each passing year – yeah, not so sexy.

The myth about Botox is that after a few simple injections (pinpricks really) suddenly your face becomes as immobile as a store mannequin’s. Your emotions are blank expressions. Au contraire. Botox simply relaxes those unwanted deep creases, allowing your natural expressions to shine even more.

Today’s man covers the gray, removes unwanted body hair, and uses hair and face products that lend him his sexy appearance. Learn more about Botox and then give it a shot!

The Sexy Man

The sexy man - I mean truly sexy through to the core – is the man who is least aware of the stunning effect that he has on most women.

You think so? he often remarks when we meet – because that’s just what I tell him when it’s instantly obvious. And, believe me, I’m not all that surprised when he seems slightly astonished, because this man doesn’t walk around thinking that he’s God’s gift to women (ladies, you know what I mean).

There’s a sparkle in his eyes, he’s well-dressed, well-groomed, confident, and forthcoming, displaying a natural sense of etiquette.

Sexy isn’t a put-on and take-off type of thing, having nothing to do with a swagger, come-on wink, or body language that you adopt when you spot a woman who catches your eye.

You either have it or you don’t. It’s as simple as that. However, once aware of what sexy really means you can learn how to turn yourself into the man that downright owns it.

Seeing yourself as others see you is nearly impossible. The way in which you present yourself may not be the way in which women perceive you at all. Sexy means manly rather than studly. It isn’t about a woman setting eyes upon you and instantly longing to jump into your bed.

Sexy means you’re approachable and having women wanting to know you.

The sexy man wins every time!

Is Spring the Time to Ditch the Socks?

With spring upon us – though in Portland you’d never know it just yet – it’s time to think about warm weather fashion.

On the men’s spring 2012 fashion runway everything, including suits, appears sans socks. Though you may be the guy who doesn’t feel fully dressed in a jacket and trousers without socks, when wearing sneakers and loafers with your more casual pants such as khakis and jeans you may want to think about ditching the socks in favor of a more updated look.

Though it seems that the younger generation can get away with just about anything fashion trendy, the more mature man is much more hesitant to stray away from traditional attire. Especially when it comes to suits, bare ankles are out of the question. However, when sporting a more casual look try the European statement – well dressed sans socks.

Nothing appears as cumbersome as warm weather clothing worn with socks paired with casual sneakers and soft leather loafers.

Spring is the time to ditch the socks.

The busy man

When love walks into a man’s life his career naturally shifts a bit to make time and space for the new lady. This, of course, means that there’s little time left over for other necessary tasks that need tending to, i.e., clothes shopping (most likely something he doesn’t especially enjoy to begin with), gift buying (there are always those loved ones that expect him to remember birthdays, weddings, and anniversaries), and picking up grooming products that keep him looking his best.

The busy man needs help with these everyday chores. He requires a personal concierge to preselect clothing items so that he simply shows up for a single wardrobe fitting with a professional stylist there to help him make the best choices, gifts bought, and daily grooming products purchased and delivered to him.

Contact me to learn more about this exciting Lorenz Concierge service.

Portland’s Most Eligible Bachelor

Everyone knows a guy who deserves to be dating the love of his life. Perhaps it’s someone who works in your office, a relative, or a good friend who has you wondering why he’s still single. Yet, rarely is there a definitive answer to why he hasn’t yet met the perfect woman.

Well, here’s your chance to lend him a hand. Lorenz matchmaking and HairM are sponsoring ‘Portland’s Most Eligible Man Contest.’ Simply nominate the guy you feel best deserves to be pampered at HairM and matched with a lovely Lorenz bachelorette – in addition there are more prizes in store if he wins. Guys can even nominate themselves – most encouraged!

For more information go to http://www.sheshouldhaveit.com/sample-page/tickets.

Well-heeled

The first thing most women notice about a man is his shoes. Believe it or not shoes can tell a lot about you. Cheap shoes make you appear . . . well, cheap. Though you may be sporting an expensive suit, trousers, or designer jeans if your shoes are less than quality (believe me, women know a thing or two about quality and shoes) or – gulp – in a state of disrepair your entire image can slip from eye-catching to passer-by in a single beat of a lady’s heart.

If you’re one of those guys who takes pride in wearing well-made – $$ – shoes that last for what seems like forever, most likely you have much the same attitude about your clothing as well. And because you spend bank on your appearance you take pride in keeping your wardrobe clean and well-pressed – and, of course, you inspect each item before wearing just to make sure it’s shipshape before hitting the streets.

Then, standing in front of your full-length mirror – don’t even tell me you don’t own one – you give yourself a thumbs up. Looking good!

And then just before leaving the house you slide into your shoes without so much as giving the poor soles a second thought. Sure you had them shined the last time you were in Nordstrom and spotted the shoeshine stand before exiting the store with your new button down shirt, but that was, hmmmm, when?

Keeping your shoes well-maintained at all times is as important as keeping your clothes looking like new – with the exception of your favorite jeans and leather bomber jacket which look better with wear (Note: I didn’t say soil).

Your shoe repair guy should know you by name – because he sees you often enough to remember it. And you should know his – Jerry Carroll at Derek’s Shoe Repair in Morgan’s Alley on SW Broadway.

Why Jerry? Simply said, he’s the best in Portland. Trust me on this one, guys!

Smile

For most guys flirting is a learned skill – for a lucky minority it comes as natural as breathing.  If you’re in the majority it takes practice in order to pull off the right gestures that will have your type of woman dying to meet you.

It’s all about making eye contact in a way that says I’m interested, rather than I really need to get laid  – with just one exception.  Though you may have the eye contact part down pat, without a friendly smile you can appear either desperate or on the hunt for some flesh.  A big toothy grin translates into stalker or goofy guy – red flags flying like crazy, and something that resembles a smirk speaks a come-on that most women know all too well.

Most importantly, you absolutely must rock pearly whites.  A brilliant white smile is what turns on the ladies.  Here there are no compromises, so if your teeth aren’t your best asset it’s time to talk to your dentist.

Then practice on every female within viewing distance, keeping in mind that flirting doesn’t necessarily have to be a means to an end. Learn your best smile.  Flirt throughout your day and notice the responses you get in return.  Remember, you have nothing to lose – your ego isn’t on the line in the same way as when you spot attraction followed by rejection because your flirting skills aren’t up to par.

FM 97.1 Charlie Interview with Nicolle Camarata

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v?=1uZoAO4KT_I

Complimentary personal shopping for ladies

Fall/winter fashions are currently in the stores and it’s a good time to browse the new trends and perhaps pick up a few key pieces.

If you’re a bit overwhelmed with all that’s new for the upcoming season, or wondering if the new trends are right for you, here’s your opportunity to shop with a professional stylist absolutely free.  Read on . . .

By referring male friends and relatives who seem to be stuck in the quagmire of the dating arena to She Should Have It you will not only be helping these romantically unfulfilled guys become more successful daters, you’ll reward yourself with a one-hour free personal shopping experience, or a one-hour home wardrobe closet clean-out.

A little about She Should Have It and what makes this worthwhile.

Many women who have tried online dating speak of finding someone who seems great, making a date to meet in person, and then being completely frustrated by the lack of face to face chemistry. Sound familiar?

Most often the trouble seems to be with men who haven’t taken the time to refine their dating skills. The no-life-work-addicts have invested so much energy in their careers that their romantic lives have not been a priority. And, as a result, when they finally go on a date, they don’t have a clue.  And really, who wants to find themselves sitting across the table from these guys?

I’m pretty sure you’ve all walked away from more than a few potential relationships based on a guy’s image and demeanor.  And I can’t say that I blame you.  Since you’ve worked hard to get your act together, you deserve a man who has the same thing going for him– well-dressed, well-groomed, and sophisticated.  Someone who looks great and knows how to behave on a date – now that isn’t too much to ask, is it?

A growing number of women are no longer willing to date men who need fixing up. Therefore, they’ve asked me about the guys who’ve come to She Should Have It for fashion, grooming, and dating advice.  How do we meet these made over men, they want to know. And each time I’m asked the first thing that comes to mind is that these ladies wouldn’t have given my clients a second glance had they met them prior to working with me.

The changes my clients have accomplished are astounding.  After a little work, their education, financial success, self-confidence, and sense of humor suddenly come shining through to the surface, placing them in the desirable date category.

First impressions can either draw a man into your circle of interest, or give you every reason to completely dismiss him. You work hard enough at your job, and you don’t need another project.

If you’re one of the lucky ladies dating or married to a man whom you’re proud to introduce to family and friends, I’m sure you have other close male friends and relatives who admire your relationship, and wonder what’s keeping them from having a similar partnership.

If you know a wonderful man looking for his Ms. Right without success, simply refer him to She Should Have It and schedule your free personal shopping session or wardrobe closet cleaning.

Email your referrals with his and your contact information to rachaelrlorenz@hotmail.com.

*Referrals must result in a She Should Have it client contract.

*Offer limited to the Portland Area.