If you haven’t been on a real date in a very long time – picking up a gal in a bar or any other venue, and then going to her place or taking her to yours doesn’t count – you’re, in fact, Date Challenged. And it still doesn’t count as a real date if you ask to see her again, because we all know where that leads.
Date Challenged doesn’t necessarily mean impaired in the pick up department – check out the notches on your bedpost. Regardless of the number of times you’ve seduced a woman if you haven’t met a lady, scheduled a day and time to see her again, thoughtfully planned your date, and executed it as planned you, my friend, are in the never ending single cycle. And if your goal when asking a lady out is to end up in bed, then the chances of breaking the cycle remain less than slim – don’t fool yourself, it’s not a real date.
When searching for your Ms. Right, getting to know the lady before having sex is paramount. Because once you take things to an intimate level you’re thinking below the belt where the little head does all the thinking and wants just one thing from a woman, whereas you, the whole guy, need more than a few moments of physical gratification for a lasting relationship to work.
Breaking the single cycle isn’t easy. It takes some effort. And feelings of loneliness and hopelessness check into your life like unwanted house guests.
If you’ve been a player for most of your adult life, changing your dating habits is tough, however changing how others view you is even more difficult. When you’re labelled a player, male friends and colleagues may introduce you to their female friends right along with the warning, He’s kind of a player usually follow by, He’s really a great guy (after all, they’re your friends).
And most women can spot a player the moment he enters her personal space – the vibe easily penetrates through to the core of their finely tuned intuition. Of course, this puts you smack dab in the category of he’s not serious about getting into a relationship. Red flag!
If you’re getting a lot, you know that sex can be addictive. However, like everything else in life that’s worth it in the long run, cleaning up your act is what will have you dating and keeping the right type of woman.